Friday, 24 October 2008
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Dear Drunk Driver
Dear Drunk Driver,
How I've hated you all these years. The things I've wanted to scream at you all these years for the hurt you caused me. The questions I've ask in my head and have never gotten answered. How could you drive drunk and take away my father? Who made you so important that you could snuff out my fathers life has if it was a flame on a candle that you just blew out. Why did you have to get behind the wheel? Why couldn't you let someone sober drive or not drive at all? What was so important that it could not wait. Did you know that you were taking a husband away from his wife. A father away from his children. Did you even care? Now my children will never know their grandfather. Thanks to you my father didn't get to see me graduate highschool. Was not there to walk me down the aisle. Did not get to see the birth of his grandchildren. Was not there for me to run to and seek comfort when my first marriage crumpled to pieces. Will not be there to see me fulfill my dreams and his dreams for me of being the first in my family to get a college degree. I will never forget and I probably will never forgive you for taking away the first man I ever loved. The first man to ever love me. The man that no matter what I did would never stop loving me. Not that it matters to you since you killed yourself too. The people I feel the most sorry for is the wife and children you left behind. Did you stop to think about the hurt and guilt you placed on them. The memory that you left ingrained in their minds the fact that their husband and father is a murder. All this unnecessary hurt and guilt could have been avoided. Had only you not got behind the wheel of that car.
Yours Truly,
The daughter of the man you killed
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Comments (19)
Your pain is apparent in these words. I pray that you find peace in this life.
@radicalramblings - Thank you for your prayers. I to pray that God will help me to find peace with this.
Stern words. Too bad he isn't reading them. I understand your pain. I have lost too many people to drunk drivers. ugh.
@Krissy_Cole - I am sorry for your loses. I hope all drunk drivers read this and maybe it will be their wake up call. They may not have killed anyone yet but they will.
i am so sorry for your loss, i am sure your father is watching you from heaven <33
@sexydevilgirl - Thank you!! I do take alittle bit of comfort in the fact that he is in heaven watching and smiling down on me.
I was in a horrible car wreck last year on Oct 18. He was drunk, totalled my car, and put me in the hospital. I got lucky, but luck definatly could of went the other way very easily. Good post.
Oh, I'm so sorry. I know what it's like because I lost my father as well, but by different means. My father didn't get the chance to see me graduate Middle School. I cried when I recieved the tickets for that graduation, because I realized that he wouldn't be able to see me get that diploma.
I'm not sure what else to say, but I'm sorry you're still hurting. xoxo.
I'm sorry such a tragedy befell you and your family. It makes me very angry that people do not consider the consequences of their actions. My heart goes out to you.
Kathi
From one who knows pain, not to lessen yours. We have regrets and pain from the past, lost fathers both of us. I can't pretend to know what you went through... I'm sorry that it happened, remember I won't ever touch a bottle again. Love you
@andilynn77 - I am glad luck went your way!! Are you okay now? Thank you for commenting.
@Vampiric_Essence - Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. I am truly sorry for your lose as well. I don't know if you are christian but I hope you to can take some comfort in knowing that he is looking down and smiling at you and everything you have achieved and will achieve.
@Still_groovy - Thank you Kathi!! It really makes me angry too.
@portasaurus - I know you will never touch a bottle again. You haven't in four years and you know you are a better man for it. Love you too.
Wow. This is why my family NEVER has touched or will touch alcohol. It is actually a bit weird since it seems like everybody and their mother drinks...all...the...time...and I've just never done it. Neither has my wife...and my parents never drank a bit while I was growing up...
It's just too destructive and horrible.
So sorry for your loss.
@dsemsen - Thank you for reading and commenting. I have drank in the past but never ever drank and drive. My father got killed 9 years ago but it seems like just yesterday. I have not touched it since than and will not. My husband used to be an alcoholic before we met. He was sober 2 years before we got together and now it is 4 years and not even a desire to drink. It's weird that I married a recovered alcoholic but I truly believe that he sees the pain I still suffer from what happened to me dad and it makes him that much more to determined to stay sober.
some people fall asleep at the wheel, some people lost focus on the road, some people have faulty made cars....here is the one thing I know you will understand...you cannot forgive someone else because it is not transitive and it actually means that you accept what you got in whatever it was...BUT YOU CAN FORGIVE yourself..
you have every reason to be anyway you want to feel..WHY? This is your life and it is your GIFT...
the one thing I know about your father, unlike many fathers, is that he gave you the feeling of your value and of your self worth on a daily basis...every moment he gave you was with a focus of seeing you and you know he was in the moment looking at you..the glory in his death is in how he lived his life...write about this man, the beauty of love...it may never help another person you will ever get a return whisper back about...but his story is much more valuable than the drunk man's story...and so is your story...keep your identity private, speak the good and the beautiful and love yourself and forgive yourself right now for being so damned hard on you...
I was given a dauschund because I wished for one..it is true, I have received every dog have ever wished for and I got a female that was used in a puppy mill and had little hard patches on her skin because she was left outside on a concrete slab with half a pickle barrel for a house, she was a rescue dog and had a big scar on her side where they had to remove a puppy...she was an older wore out dog..but she was my baby, my son as a baby she took to him like a little mother and he had a good eight years with her, she was four when we got her...she would adore me with a total licking of all my hair, my face, eyes, back of neck and she would not stop until I made her, it was very loving...whenever there was lightning and thunder she was so fearful she would cuddle up so tightly...I have never owned a dog like her since...they are unique
@mysilentme - Thank you for this comment. I can honestly say you brought tears to my eyes. You are right I need to forgive myself and I will write that post about my dad. Again Thank you.